Remember: Rediscovering Yourself

Have you ever caught yourself thinking, “I don’t even know who I am anymore”?

It’s one of the most common phrases I hear from women in midlife and peri/menopause.

For decades, many of us have poured our energy into careers, business, children, family dynamics, relationships, community — often putting our own desires on hold. Then one day we wake up, look around, and wonder: “What about me?”

This is where the Remember stage of the Rising Feminine Framework comes in. It’s not about going back to who you used to be. It’s about rediscovering the self that’s been quietly waiting underneath the roles, expectations, and noise.

Let’s explore the challenges women face here, the solutions that begin to unlock identity, and why remembering yourself is one of the most transformative acts you can take in midlife.

Challenge 1: Losing Touch With Identity

After years of being the reliable employee, the partner, the parent, the caretaker — it’s easy to forget who you are outside of those labels. The question “Who am I, really?” can feel overwhelming, or even frightening.

✨ The Solution: Start with curiosity, not pressure. Gentle journaling prompts like “What did I used to love that I’ve stopped doing?” or “When do I feel most like myself?” can spark the memory of your authentic self.

Reflection: When was the last time you felt lit up by something that was purely for you?

Challenge 2: Carrying Guilt for Wanting More

So many women feel guilty for wanting more than their “now” — for longing for freedom, passion, or purpose. We’ve been told it’s selfish to put ourselves first.

✨ The Solution: Reframe self-prioritisation as self-respect. When you honour your needs, you model resilience and joy for everyone around you. Children, partners, colleagues all benefit when you thrive.

Reflection: What story have you been told about putting yourself first — and how might you rewrite it?

Challenge 3: Believing the Best Years Are Behind You

It’s easy to believe that growth, fun, or adventure belong to the “younger” version of yourself. Midlife can feel like a slow decline rather than an unfolding — particularly as our hormone ups and downs take their toll.

✨ The Solution: Remember that this is our season of becoming. Many women only step into their truest voice, power, and passion now. This stage is not about fading away — it’s about rising into authenticity.

Reflection: If the second half of your life was your best chapter, what would you want it to hold?

 Bonus Reflection: What dream have you quietly buried that might deserve a second chance?

Why Remembering Matters

Remembering isn’t about nostalgia — it’s about identity. When you reconnect with your self-worth and desires, you stop living small and start choosing for yourself.

Here’s what shifts when you Remember:

• Confidence grows as you honour your truth.
  
• Joy returns as you follow sparks of curiosity.
  
• Relationships rebalance as you show up authentically.
  
• And perhaps most importantly: you realise it’s not too late. In fact, it’s the perfect time.

You Might Be Thinking…

• “It’s too late for me to reinvent myself.” → Midlife is not an ending; it’s a doorway into a more aligned version of you.

• “I don’t know where to start.” → Remembering begins with small sparks, not big leaps. And we’ll guide you along this path.

• “I feel selfish focusing on myself.” → When you rise, everyone around you benefits. In particular, our children’s behaviour and outlook on the world often mirror how we feel within ourselves. When we feel better about who we are, it flows outward — helping everyone around us feel more positive too.

A Final Reflection

Pause for a moment. Place your hand on your heart. Ask gently: “What part of me have I forgotten — and is it time to remember her?”

This is the gift of Remember. It’s not about who you were, but who you’re becoming.

✨ Next Step

If this resonates, imagine what it would feel like to be guided through not just Remember, but the full cycle of transformation.

Inside Uprising, we take these sparks of identity and weave them into a journey of grounding, reclaiming, joy, and rising. It’s where women stop feeling invisible and start living fully, unapologetically, as themselves. 

Discover more about this and our full Rising Feminine Framework – and why its so effective- in our Rising Feminine Webinar.

Because when you remember, you rise.